Dreams 4

Did you ever play pretend when you were a child? I love to play pretend, but it began in my adult life. Let me explain. As children we can pretend to be adults. We can also pretend to have adult jobs filled with adult conversations, playing adult roles, etc.… We can actually pretend to be anything our mind can imagine.
My childhood was so complicated that I didn’t know how to play pretend, so I never did. I learned to pretend at a conference that changed my life and I’ve used it since to my benefit. For my purpose, pretending is an elevated form of dreaming.
I want to connect this game that children play with the psychological concept of “acting as if…” The more you dream, the more you form certain mental pictures. If you keep on having the same dreams over and over again, those mental pictures can create new neural pathways. It’s like the ‘good book’ says; “by beholding, we become changed.”
One of my dreams was to become a published author. So I attended another conference that took me to another level. It was that conference that propelled me into becoming a serious writer. I was paired with an accountability partner who was relentless and the super goal was for me to write my book in six weeks. She too had her own big project to accomplish in those six weeks. I amazed myself by writing over three hundred pages worth of manuscript in those six weeks.
The whole time I was telling myself that I needed to ‘act as if’ I was a published author with a six-week deadline, and I did. My then partner was clearly responsible for half of that work because she didn’t’ let me slide. I remember going on vacation on a very small island in the Caribbean. Before I left I told my accountability partner that I couldn’t write for that week. Her response was that I made a six week commitment and that I could either cancel my vacation to meet my commitment or take my computer with me and write the daily amount of pages needed to meet my deadline. I took my laptop with me and I wrote on vacation. You may think that was extreme, yet at the end of the six weeks my goal was met.
This was a specific supper assignment to demonstrate that we could accomplish so much more than we imagine or allow ourselves to imagine.
Dreaming is nice and at times even fun. But your dreams need to take a turn for the serious. Once you do that, you soon realize that you can dream alone, but you can’t accomplish your dream alone. You need an accountability partner. You must share your dream with someone. You must come up with a deadline. You must agree to some rules as to how you’ll reach this deadline. You must commit to this deadline. Lastly, you must agree that your partner will hold you accountable in the context that there are very few viable excuses to deviate from your goal.
If reaching your dream was easy, you’d done it a long time ago. I’m a prime example of this last point. My manuscript was completed in 2000 and I haven’t done anything with it since. Now I can’t even find it. In the meantime my former accountability partner had done so much with her dream. I need to enter into contract with a new accountability partner to become the published author of that book.
So for me it’s back to pretending again. I need to act as if I am a published author of that specific book and step out in faith.

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