Passages

Just about a year ago I stopped writing these weekly tidbits.  I started writing them on October 16, 2002 and over the years friends and acquaintances from all over the world told me they were blessed by them.  Then last summer I just stopped writing.  No immediate reason comes to mind; I just had this mental block that would not be moved.

Many times I thought of starting again at the request of my readers.  Finally the other day in the space of three days, an avalanche of people who did not know each other told me they needed to hear from me again.  I got the message, it’s time to write again and keep doing it for the foreseeable future.

Yet the question still remains; why do we enjoy doing certain things and why do we walk away from them for seemingly no good reason. Back in 1976 when I was just a baby of course, a book came out that was read by millions as an international best seller.  That book was so influential that a library of congress survey named it one of the most influential books of our time.

This book is called Passages and the author is Gail Sheehy.  In her original work she traced the radical changes we go through from the ages of 18 and 50.  Then in 1988 she tried to write a sequel only tofind out that in the span of those twelve years, the adult life cycle experienced a historic revolution.  So in 1995 after comparing five generations extracted from fifty years of U.S. Census reports she published the New Passages.  Well you can guess that since 1995 we’ve experienced more historic revolutions.

As humans we are ever changing, ever growing in one direction or another.  The thing is if we live consciously we get to decide which direction we grow.  If we live unconsciously then the default direction is not a positive one.  In her recent book Ms. Sheehy attempts to help us customize our own life cycle.

Ms. Sheehy suggests that after a crisis or ‘a period of unconsciousness’ (my term) we can either progress or regress.  It all depends on how we handle the crisis, because crises are passages from one stage of conscious or unconscious living to another.

This makes me wonder if for a moment last summer I stopped living consciously.  I’m sure you know what that feels like.  That’s when we just start living just to live.  Thank God I didn’t stay in that state for long, but by then I lost the habit of writing every week and then I got lazy.  Has that ever happened to you?

Over the next few weeks I want to explore with you some of the pivotal stages in life that determine who we are becoming and how we can consciously influence those stages. Are you ready for the adventure?  For the mean time it is important to remember that each today is a gift to live consciously with all the passion we can muster since tomorrow is still just a dream.

Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well! Ps 90:12

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