Love Cup 2

The happiest people on this planet are those who accept the fact that they really are children in grown up bodies. We experience a lot of stress, depression and lack of enthusiasm because we take ourselves way too seriously. Do yourself a favor once in a while, go to a playground and watch children at play. They do it with total abandon; it is as if they have no care in the world, and of course they don’t. As an adult you are not that different from the children you see running around except that you have major responsibilities. Your attitude toward those responsibilities and how you choose to handle them is what makes you or breaks you. What if you were to make time in your life to play with total abandon and allow the child in you to come out?

As we leave childhood and mature into adulthood, we get to decide who fills our Love Cup. The challenge with that is most of us have set patterns; one of them is the way we choose our relationships. To get the love you need in your Love Cup you must have the right people in your life. You have to make the right choices regarding where you hang out. You have to carefully choose the places you go and the experiences you have. The more positive those choices the more love you get from those choices.

If your Love Cup is not at the level you want it to be, then the choices you are making are not working for you. Blaming life, circumstances or other people is a cop out and will not fill your Love Cup. However, facing yourself and accepting the fact that you’ve been making poor choices is a step in the right direction. You are who you are today because of the choices you’ve made. No one put a gun to your head when you were making them. It’s time to change your pattern and face your Love Cup.

First, you need to determine what you want. How do you want to be loved? No one can really give you the love you want unless you know what you want. Then you have to tell them what you want and how you want it. What kind of specific feeling you want to have when you are loved the way you want to be loved? The adult part of you must take responsibility for the status of your cup. Yet you must evoke your inner child and face life with total abandon and go for what you want without second guessing yourself. Life is hard work, getting the love you want is hard work too.

So let’s get to the bottom line. Who or what are you attached to and what is it doing for you? Is it filling your Love Cup? Is your life working the way you really want it to?

So today make one decision that will put you in a different direction. It does not have to be a big decision. After that decision, call someone you trust and share that decision with them and get them to commit to keeping you accountable. If you are a praying person, pray and ask God to seal that pact with you. It is by design that I didn’t ask you to pray first since most praying people already know what God wants them to do. Yet they often use prayer as a crutch not to do anything, so they keep asking expecting a different answer.

I am an eternal optimist who believes that God has given us the power to be our best when we pay attention and not swim in the river of denial. Today is your day; you are not reading this by accident. Get up and do something. When you are done go out and play.

Whatever you do, do well. For when you go to the grave, there will be no work or planning or knowledge or wisdom. Eccl 9:10

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